I am writing my first blog of this year today, and this idea has come to mind when i was preparing for some negotiation. I would like to focus on something which is quite obvious but we generally forget considering it. It is about keeping Psychology in mind when arguing. Lets start with its definition, and it is obvious that this is not my definition – Psychology is an academic and applied discipline that involves the scientific study of mental functions and behaviors.
From many theories, experience and intuition I have discovered that we always assume that others will also understand the same way as we do, but it is rigidly unclear. This is greatly supported by arguments that you see in your daily life, at home, at work, at anywhere! For example when you realize and believe that the loudest person is the weakest in the room, you might not argue or shout.There will be less argument and disagreement when people understand the way you understand. I would say such people as Psychologically aware people.The more you surround yourself with psychologically aware people the less argument over irrelevant things would occur.
Another thing I would like to pull here is arguing with your siblings or someone innocent who does have strong believe or interest on something you think completely opposite of it. It might be easy to come to a conclusion and a healthy debate can build when arguing with psychologically aware people.
Also, i would like to add another example of arguing between or among psychologically aware people with significant age differences. Experience, and respect due to age can help to come to conclusion early, and reduce conflicts during argument. Also, argument with professionals seems to be very difficult, when people run out of common topics and interest area. A healthy argument is when one has something to add into the ongoing topic which can surprise others, and argument turns into discussion. There are people who would try to comment on credibility of the knowledge, but a psychological aware person would know how to react or grasp what is being discussed. No one needs argument but it is spontaneous, and emotions can turn anything around. Emotions mostly influence your agreement and sometimes it should come at the last and depending on the argument, people who bring emotions all the time are bad arguer.
Have A Good Day!